Time changes us. People too. Sometimes people make us happy. Sometimes they hurt us. Sometimes they make a significant change in our lives. Sometimes they don’t let us forget something. Some good moments, some bad times.
But the problem starts when you can’t forget, can’t forgive. Even if you forgive, you can’t forget. There are some things that are not in our control. Worrying over them or trying to change them is useless. Still we do so. Because that’s not in our control to let go of it. They say that let go of the things that are in your circle of no control. Easier said than done. Not at all easy.
No matter how hard you try, you cannot do so. No matter how much you want, you can’t change some things. They are inevitable. Some people some situations are unavoidable, inescapable. You cannot just close your eyes to what you do not want to see or close your ears to what you do not want to hear. You have to, whether you like it or not.
There are times you wish you could run away somewhere, or be invisible. But you cannot.
There are times you wish you could disappear and not face the people. But you cannot.
There are times you wish you could have escaped your presence. But you cannot.
Not everything is in your control. No matter how hard you try, you sometimes cannot avoid being hurt. Times you cannot change things as per your wish. Times you cannot make anything happen that you want.
That time when you are completely helpless. You feel crippled. Betrayed. Hurt. Alone. Anguished. Painful. Depressed. Sad. That time when you feel sorry for yourself. When you feel it difficult to live. When you feel worthless. When you don’t even feel like living. That is the worst time you ever face in your life! Darkness. Life at a dead end.
It’s 21st century that we are living in. The modern era, modern age. The era of technology and advancement. But still, our society is the same. People are the same. The stereotypical thinking and mindsets are the same. It’s the machinery or gadgets that have changed and transformed. Not the minds of our people. We are still in that stone age era. Same typical fears, wishes, issues, problems. We have not transformed our thinking, our way of living.
Women are considered to be equal to men in today’s world. But this is to say only.
Our religion Islam also considers and enforces that men and women are equal and that
they should be treated on equal basis. But this is our society which does not think and
do so, and always have a biased attitude towards women. Our society never understands a woman, her needs, her dreams, her wishes. It only suppresses a woman’s voice. Our society does not allow a woman to voice her opinions or wishes, rather she is forced to keep her mouth zipped and only follow what she is ordered to.
They say we are a modern and educated society. Still, if a woman faces social pressure, she is bound to keep quiet. No matter how modern, educated or sensible she is, a woman has not learned how to speak up, how to take a stand for herself. If she is harassed at workplace or home, she keeps quiet. If she is not allowed to pursue career of her choice, she is bound to do so. If she is being married to a man she does not like, she is expected to accept that’s her fate. If she is not allowed to go outside of her home for study purposes, she is forced to stay at home and do only household work. If she is facing domestic violence, she is threatened to keep quiet. That is today’s woman!
WHY? Why is this so? Why a woman would never be confident and independent enough to take charge of her life and do whatever she wants? Why a woman is never allowed to live a life she dreams of? Why a woman is never considered equal to men in real sense? Why a woman is still considered inferior? Why a woman is still controlled by a man? Why a woman is not allowed to live freely? Why?…
I am amazed at how a woman who wants to study is not allowed to do so? I am amazed at how a woman who wants to go abroad for higher studies or job is not permitted because of stereotypical fears? I am amazed at how a woman who wants to marry the man of her choice but not of the same cast or class is not allowed because of social pressure? I am amazed at how a woman who is facing harassment in her own house is bound to keep quiet just because no one would accept that she is innocent? I am amazed at how a woman is bearing domestic violence just because the society would blame her? I am amazed at how a woman is being divorced just because she could not have children and that’s considered to her fault?
I am amazed at today’s woman who is still suppressed and not given equal rights!
We are living our life in ignorance. There is a quote by Emma Goldman that says “The most violent element in society is ignorance.” This ignorance is destroying our society and people. We are living our life with social pressure and stereotypes. We are afraid to expand our vision. We are scared of the society, of the notion that “what would people say?” We have still not learned how to live our life freely, without the so-called social pressure and stereotypical thinking.
We are a free nation, but still chained to our minds, our society. We have not learned
how to free our minds from the old age thinking, customs and traditions. We have not learned how to move forward in life without the social pressure.
They say we are a free nation. But in actual, we are a be shackled nation, that is trapped in invisible chains, imprisoned in cages.
And so, here we are, a chained nation with our tongues zipped.
I do not hope for a better future, for a future that is free of such stereotypes, as long
as we do not learn to break these chains, to come out of these cages, to speak up for
equality and justice, to stand up for our rights, to be able to live a free life.
In such a society of chaos, inequality and violence, I do not hope of a better future.